Stop Lying: How Painful Realizations Can Unlock a Healthier Life

This is a post from NF Wordsmith Taylor.

Excuses are a tricky subject. Try to point out an excuse to a friend, and you’re sure to get blasted with his or her wrath, being called an insensitive jerk:

“Easy for you to say!”

“You have NO idea what it’s like.”

“You don’t have this shit to deal with!”

On the other hand, when we can really break through and talk honestly and with some vulnerability, excuses we’ve championed for years can be pierced instantly:

“Wow, maybe I do have time, but it’s just that I haven’t made it a priority.”

“I do have some medical issues, but I’ve been using that as an excuse to do nothing all these years.”

We all play this game of life on different difficulty levels. We begin in different starting areas, with different gear, and different advantages and disadvantages. That’s just how the game works. Our job is to make the most of the hand we’ve been dealt. And it’s only us that can change us.

Only me that can change me. Only you that can change you.

Just take a moment to consider the implications of that: It doesn’t matter how bad you’ve had it. It doesn’t matter how busy you are or how much easier others may have it.

If you want to be healthy (or accomplish something else), it’s up to you to find a path to get there. It might be slow. It might take some trial and error. But nobody can do it for you. One day YOU have to decide: “I am going to do this.”

Stop Lying and Grow

excuses morph

Finally putting an excuse to rest can be indescribably hard; these self-limiting ideas can be shapeshifters, holding many forms. That’s because when you really believe something, it can be incredibly painful drop the excuse.

A few weeks ago we destroyed the “I’m too old” excuse. If you’ve been holding onto the belief that you are too old, finally letting go means facing the fact that you’ve wasted all that time. Your mind may even jump to imagine all the months and years that you could’ve been in shape. Now, if you were wrong and could’ve made changes ages ago, it can feel embarrassing, possibly even shameful. “How could I be that stupid?” In that moment we feel this all at once, and it’s so easy to recoil and say: “Nah, I’m right, I can’t do ___ because ___!”

That way, we don’t have to face this pain (as silly and fleeting as it is). And yeah, it’s natural to want to save yourself the pain…

But often the ONLY way to grow and be better is to accept this reality and experience this all as it is. The story of the Phoenix reminds us that rising anew and transformed (even in the smallest of ways) requires a process that can feel a lot like death.

These self-limiting beliefs – these excuses aren’t always verbally said out loud to friends and family, or even to ourselves consciously. It’s often quiet mental chatter – an under-the-surface reason not to do something:

I’m probably too old.  I’m probably too fat. I just don’t have time. I’m injured/still recovering. I’m trapped in a glass case of emotion.

In all of these cases, we’re giving up control of our situations for something that feels like it’s outside of our domain. But it’s not. We’re tricking ourselves.

Remember: Despite the absolute truth of the difficulty embedded in your excuse, the only person in the world who can do something about it is you. And there is always SOMETHING you can do to better yourself. No matter how futile the effort might seem, it is worth it.

You can change, though it might be a painful realization. Sometimes, life helps us along a little bit. Sometimes, we have to do all the work ourselves to see it. But if life does show us how we’ve been fooling ourselves, we better seize the opportunity.

That’s why I want you to hear from Kevin: a guy who’s done exactly that. Over the past few years, he’s not only managed to completely transform his body and career, but also his outlook on life along the way!

Kevin’s Story
Kevin Before AFter

Kevin’s journey perfectly illustrates how excuses can seem so powerful when they have a hold over us. But once they are [hulk]smashed, they are revealed for the illusions they really are!

Taylor: Kevin, thanks so much for sharing some of your story with us. I’d love to hear about the old Kevin.

Kevin: The ‘worst’ version of Kevin wakes up late for work because he stayed up into stupid hours playing Borderlands. On the way, maybe he sneaks in a cigarette that he hopes no one knows about and slugs gross amounts of Diet Coke in order to prop his eyes open. Breakfast required way too much planning, but lunch never came early enough, so Old Kevin probably walks across the street around 11am and buys the big bag of Chester’s hot fries. On the way back to his office he feels the eyes of his coworkers move back and forth between his purchase and his growing midsection. He self-consciously says something about making them last the rest of the week, but he and everyone else knows they will be gone by the end of the day.

Old Kevin drives to McDonald’s for lunch and then finishes out the work day. At home, Old Kevin goes back to Borderlands so he can forget that there aren’t many people in his phonebook that he can call. That’s not even true… Borderlands is just way easier.

Kevin Deadlifting Camp

Taylor: Knowing you (as a volunteer at Camp Nerd Fitness) and talking to you now, I can’t even imagine you as the Old Kevin (For those of you at home, that’s Kevin Deadlifting at Camp). Did you know things were bad?

Kevin: Yea, I started to look and feel like the worst version of myself. I gained over 20lbs in one winter. I felt like crap everyday, and began dealing with undiagnosed depression. This was early 2013.

Taylor: So, tell me about the moment of change. Was there one? How did you break through this seemingly impenetrable wall of excuses?

Kevin: My biggest excuse for not investing in my health and fitness was that I was in a place in my life where thought I needed to focus on my career. I couldn’t go to the gym because I needed to prove my value by spending more time at the office.

My first performance review shattered that excuse. I received what felt like mediocre marks, and a mediocre raise. It felt like I was getting nowhere. Pair that with the idea that I had no other options and you get a pretty uninspired Kevin who felt really, really stuck.

Taylor: Tell me more about these excuses. What did breaking through look like?

My personal brand of bullshit was pretty brilliant. I hid behind stories like “bloom where you’re planted” and “be so good they can’t ignore you,” so that I wouldn’t have to make moves and do scary things. That way I could still feel like I was building something, when I was really just hiding.

The problem was that every chapter of my life felt like another episode of Pinky and the Brain. I’d work really hard to try and take over the world only to fail miserably and be reminded that I was spending most of my time trapped in a laboratory cage. You don’t end up where you want to go by finally getting that raise, or obtaining a superhero body. You can only ditch anxiety and sleep peacefully at night when you know with certainty that you are walking your path. That path will always lead to growth.

Taylor: So, you got started with diet and exercise? What did you do exactly?

The first 3 months were extremely rocky. I hadn’t really done any studying at that point, so I was doing a lot of really stupid crap to try to lose the weight. I found it impossible to lose more than 6lbs! I even got discouraged and gave up for a while. When I got back after it, paired my gym efforts with a search for good information. Nerd Fitness and the Nerd Fitness Academy were a cornucopia of information and resources, and I gathered everything I could.

The most consistent thing about my workouts has been the strong desire to lift heavy things! I was really competitive in the weight room during high school football and I think that has stayed with me all this time. Early on I started building spreadsheets to track my workouts and systems to force progressive overload. I played with weights and reps until I found what I liked.

A workout usually looks like warming up with some body work, max effort lifting on a primary pattern, followed by accessory work that will either target a weakness or be something I’m practicing for my coaching. I’ve joined a powerlifting community that has helped me level up my Big Three (Squat, Deadlift, Bench). Thanks guys!

I’ve fallen hard for rock climbing (pun intended?) so I am also spending huge chunks of time outside somewhere awkwardly clambering up boulders.

I lost the weight eating an ultra low-carb base diet that mostly consisted of meats and veggies. I also used intermittent fasting. That said, I still can’t keep junk in my house because I have absolutely no restraint when it comes to cinnamon rolls and chocolate doughnuts.

Taylor: Well, it sounds like I wouldn’t even recognize “Old Kevin.” What have you struggled with the most on your journey?

The toughest change for me has been change itself. The dreams I have today are nothing like the dreams I had 3 years ago. I experience a lot of cognitive dissonance from day to day. On one side I am a success story, a guy who has transformed physically as well as professionally. I’ve found the success that had previously eluded me. I am building a business, and my own brand of fitness.

On the other side, I am a guy who barely made it through college with a degree I’m not using. A guy who until recently, has failed to reach many of his goals. I’ve moved away from everything I had previously worked towards, include a lifelong dream of becoming an architect. It’s the most difficult when I’m around family or friends who don’t know the new me very well.

I still get a few people who will drop in and ask me if I’ve built anything cool lately. I’ll always tell them yes, but they don’t realize I’m no longer talking about actual buildings!

It can all get very confusing. My ego doesn’t know if it should be pissed off, disappointed, or really excited about the future. I now know there really isn’t an old me or a new me. At the end of the day it’s just me, except now I’m trying to be a little better and a little truer to myself each day.

Taylor: Amen, brother! There is something profoundly difficult and imprisoning about our self-identities, especially when others feed their image of us back to us. Like you mention, people who aren’t aware of just how much you changed may talk to you as if you were a different person (an older you). Because you changed so much, in many ways you are in a very real sense, a different person now. And in another sense, it’s you – all you and only ever you.

Were there any tricks you used or a particular change that was helpful in overcoming this stuff?

Kevin: I took Steve’s advice and started to “do shit that scared me.” Not like daredevil stunts, but making moves that were scary because they were the steps I needed to take in order to move in the direction of growth.

Fear isn’t the protection mechanism that we’ve been conditioned to think it is. Its more like that game we used to play when we were kids. The one where someone goes and hides a toy in the bushes and then sends you out after it. The only information you get about your position relative to the goal is your sister giggling while saying “colder” or “hotter.”

Only your spirit knows where the goal is. Depression means “colder.” Fear means “hotter.” Fear becomes your compass. You’d be lost without it.

Taylor: Love it. We always say “do shit that scares you” – that growth happens at our limits, and that sometimes you just need 20 seconds of courage to do the things you really want to do.

So, I wanted to ask about your career change, especially now that you’re a health and fitness coach! How was making that shift? What sorts of things do you do with clients?

Kevin: I reached a point where I had so much energy towards health and fitness that doing anything other than coaching no longer made any sense!

Over the past 2 years I’ve developed a program for my athletes that focuses on healthy eating and lifestyle patterns outside of the gym. Inside the gym we develop athletic movement patterns and strength.

I am really fascinated by the concept of Mastery, so I feel like I’m currently working through my 10,000 hours of coaching. I’m always looking for ways to improve the services I am providing and ways to connect personal growth to health and fitness.

Taylor: So, I know you grew to become a Yoda to many in the Nerd Fitness Academy, and a major part of that community. What other support systems did you have?

Kevin: In the beginning I was so scared of how unhappy I was that I didn’t talk to anyone! I think I had too much pride and asking for help meant admitting failure.

However, it’s quite amazing how your support network will grow as you move in the right direction. Sometimes you will meet new friends that will more fully support your purpose. Sometimes you will be able to open up to the people you knew all along. Sometimes you will even be able to help them grow on their own path. It’s been exciting to see the role of NF evolve to become a part of this. I went from devouring the blog archives, to helping people on the men’s academy boards like you mentioned.

Meeting everyone at camp was a whole new level. I’m grateful to now have such cool friends from Team NF and the rest of the community. The group that gathers there each year contains some of the most earnest and supportive people I’ve ever met. I’m grateful to have been a small part of it.

Get Uncomfortable, and Grow

Kevin Flag

Kevin’s story shows us how powerful our own minds and reasoning can be – often working against us. Sometimes we have to kick down the doors in our minds before we can step into the gym, or onto the pavement.

If we’re willing to listen and see, life can give us clues – hints that the stories we tell ourselves might not be 100% accurate. In Kevin’s case, that was his changing situation at work: he rose to the challenge and took a real hard look at his I’m “focusing on work excuse.”

Remember that growth isn’t easy. It happens at our limits, and it is often uncomfortable.

Each time we bust through an excuse that is ingrained in us, we make a huge step forward. In a way, we stop lying to ourselves. We start living a life that is truer to ourselves.

Are there any excuses in your life that you don’t see as excuses, but legitimate reasons for complete inaction? Is it possible there is something you can do?

Drop by and leave some questions for Kevin, or just a high five.

-Taylor

PS: Speaking of Camp Nerd Fitness, Kevin is coming back as a volunteer! Are you gonna join us this fall? We hope to see you there!

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  • Derek Hart

    Hey Steve…I shared this on twitter because I think it’s a great message that transcends fitness. Sometimes we need to take a cold-hard look at ourselves in all facets. Keep up with the great articles, you’re doing a lot of good.

  • Kerry

    I really enjoy reading your posts, it is very encouraging. I feel like I am laden with excuses in my life right now, although some are real road blocks/detours. I feel like accepting some of them (i.e. having a 4 month old and a toddler with a full time job and a traveling husband) has put me in survival mode, but I feel like even within this chaos, I should be able to find 10 minutes for myself and do something, anything. I will work on these first baby steps this week, thank you for the encouragement.

  • Taylor

    Thanks for sharing!

  • gson1192

    FINE! Just…. Fine then!!! First you take away my excuse of “I’m old… I shouldn’t be doing this stuff,” now you take away my other excuses like work, and other things that I would prefer to do………. Humpf! So, I signed up for an aquatic bootcamp (I love swimming and have always been a pretty good swimmer), which starts next week I just hope this old body can handle it and that I don’t look too foolish!! LOL

  • Tinúviel

    Hey, Kevin! 🙂 you mentioned that
    “You don’t end up where you want to go by finally getting that raise, or obtaining a superhero body. You can only ditch anxiety and sleep peacefully at night when you know with certainty that you are walking your path. That path will always lead to growth.”

    Could you elaborate on that? 🙂 how did you ditch the anxiety and feelings of being stuck and find your path? How did you deal with those feelings of insecurity, low self esteem. Especially when things in you career weren’t going so well?

    I feel like I’m in a similar spot right now in life. Only I’m going to university. I haven’t been doing so well in classes this last semester. I failed two classes and barely passed the other two. I would really appreciate your response! I know you’re busy though. Thanks for sharing your story, it’s truly so relatable and inspiring. Thank you!

    -Tinúviel

  • Jennifer Chase

    I am struck by the mention of cognitive dissonance. I made a career change 5 years ago to a field that embodies what I used to critique (moved from academia to the business world). There is a lot I really like about the new life, but a piece of me still feels sad about giving up what had been a lifelong dream. I’d love to hear more about how Kevin processes this.

    Also, how do you know if the problem is your attitude/your excuses? I am referring here to Kevin’s attempt to “bloom where he was planted”. This phrase makes a lot of sense on the face of it, especially when you’re trying to practice gratitude and see the positive things about where you are. It’s hard to tell if my attitude/perspective are the problem (i.e. if I’m making excuses), or if the problems are “really” there. So I’d love to hear more about how Kevin moved from trying really hard to make his job work, to deciding it was a time for change.

  • tmkuster

    This article could not have come at a better time… I am at a real crossroads in my life/career. I am not truly enjoying what I am doing but I need to continue doing what I am doing to support my family. I have bought Steve’s book, read it, been motivated but done nothing… I am in stasis… As someone who is about to turn 45 and is tremendously out of shape, mentally, physically and emotionally, I hope I can gain some insight from these words and they can help me get to where I need to get.

  • Just wanted to say I cannot WAIT to see Kevin at camp again 😀 😀 😀 We shall see each other soon….no excuses 🙂 Always and forever, <3 JAMAL!

  • Gram91

    I enjoy reading the Nerd Fitness posts to get inspiration to improve and get healthy. Right now, I am trying to do more things that make me uncomfortable, as well as having expectations for too many things. Biggest things I’m working on right now are exercise and nutrition, leading to the following question:

    My workout plan is to do my workout after waking up (around 6 AM) and
    drinking a glass of warm water. If I were to do intermittent fasting,
    would muscle growth be impeded if I had the protein later?

  • Mauricio Gatgens

    “It doesn’t matter how bad you’ve had it. It doesn’t matter how busy you are or how much easier others may have it.”
    Loved that! This post absolutely got to me, I’ve always been the type to make excuses and not do what I’m supposed to do, but I’ve realized it’s not the way to live life to the fullest.
    One of the best decisions I’ve made is making a commitment to myself to never lie to myself (and this includes lying to others as well) ever again, and taking full responsibility for my actions and for my lack of action.
    Great Post, as usual!

  • Mauricio Gatgens

    No way to look foolish by doing the right thing man 😉 keep it up!

  • Great article! It’s so easy to get wrapped up with areas in our lives that sometimes we forget about the bigger picture. Going through changes isn’t always easy but it is definitely necessary along the way. Hopefully so that we become versions of ourselves that fit that period in our lives.

  • EngineeredGains

    Great post! I’m in the process of writing a similar post myself. Its amazing what you can do when you stop making excuses and just get started! All it takes it putting on your running shoes and you’re already off to a better start. Small steps in the right direction snowball into big changes! The first step is to stop making excuses for yourself!

  • EngineeredGains

    Hey Tinuviel,

    I’m obviously not Kevin but your story resonates with me. My senior year of college and sub-sequentially my first year in the working world I felt exactly like you described. No motivation at school, no desire to put effort in at my job, It’s a terrible feeling!

    What helped me is realizing that these feelings although intense, are temporary. They WILL pass. Just like a rough break up, you will move past this, but it will take effort on your part. What I think Kevin is saying (please correct me if i’m wrong) is try to understand that YOU are in control of your own life! Once you stop making excuses and own up to both your successes and failures you can see what you’ve been struggling with and refocus your efforts to improve in those areas.

    I don’t want to drone on too much but I hope this helps you. Take control of your life! Only you have the power to make it as great or crappy as you want. I’ve been there, Kevin’s been there and I think many others have gone through what I call a “quarter year crisis” (most people in their early 20’s share similar concerns about their life). We got through it and so will you!

    Best of luck!

  • Kevin

    Do it!

  • Kerry

    I signed up for the Rebel starter kit and went on my first 10 minute walk for the first time in a long time. We went at toddler pace, but I did it.

  • Kevin

    Self Doubt is an inescapable part of being human, but its hard to feel stuck if you invest your time doing the things your gut is already telling you to do… Go make moves friend!

  • Dandelion

    Does being 7 months pregnant count as an excuse? I have nearly everyone telling me to take it easy even though I’m so frustrated with where I am.

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  • KariVery

    Yay, Kerry!

  • Anita

    Personally, what hit home the most out of this whole article (which was great all the way through, by the way) was the part about self-identity. For years I’ve been holding on to the thought that I was going to become an actress. Now I’ve decided to try my hands on a bachelor degree in marketing. I feel like I can’t really give up on acting, but at the same time, if I can find something else that makes me just as happy without all the stress and the tears, why not? Or maybe it’ll just cement my determination to succeed at acting. Who knows?

  • Naomi Black

    I studied Journalism and was determined to become a Journalist or work in the media. It was my passion – it was all I focused my energy on for about 5 years of my life. I worked my butt off doing freelance and volunteer work and applied for job after job suffering rejection after rejection. Although on the one hand, I loved it, I also suffered so much stress, anxiety and depression. I felt stuck working a job I hated (bartending) to supplement the very sporadic income I would get from any of my media work. One day I just decided that I didn’t want to live like this for the rest of my life – especially knowing that even if I did get a media job, I would only ever be on short-term contracts most likely. So I decided to change. I applied to be a police officer. It was the hardest and scariest thing I have ever done but I did it. 5 years on I am working in a stable, exciting and challenging job and I love it. Part of me mourns the old me, but mostly I am glad I took the risk to rid myself of the feeling of being ‘stuck’ just to prove a point to myself that I had to work in the media.

    On the flip side, I have realised that these kinds of cross-roads will forever be cropping up in my life because they are normal. It’s the people that choose to challenge these crossroads who are the happiest. You don’t get anywhere without taking a bit of calculated risk or pushing yourself. 5 years into policing and I am feeling stuck in a rutt again. I want to move departments/do something else. But part of me is too scared to get out of my comfort zone to push myself to do something else, even though my comfort zone is miserable (but comfortable).

    I don’t think there is some magic turning point where all of your insecurities and excuses will miraculously disappear. That’s one thing about these ‘now and then’ kind of stories that frustrate me. Because even Kevin as he is at the moment will one day become the ‘old’ Kevin – and he will one day have to make new decisions and face new challenges. Life is about these crossroads and they are constantly evolving.

  • Tinúviel

    Hey EngineeredGains! 😛

    I appreciate the fact that you responded, that means so much to me and anyone else that may be struggling with these issues! It is people like you and actions like yours that truly remind me that internet is not all bad. That I have friends here on Nerdfitness and that there is still hope for humanity! ;3

    When I was reading your response, I related to what you said so much! My classes have been kicking my butt! and I completely agree, I need to take control of my life and stop making excuses! 🙂 I have more hope now because of your amazing response! 🙂 thank you!

    The question still remains, however: How can I have hope? What exactly should I do to make my life as great as I want it?

    I know the pain is temporary as you said. and that I will eventually move past the pain, but sometimes I think people (I am certainly guilty of this) deal with that pain in unhealthy and counterproductive ways. I try not to feel this way too often, and I don’t know if you could help with this feeling: but sometimes I get really bummed. That despite numerous attempts, my life still isn’t where I want it to be. I’m still struggling with getting fit, with getting the grades I want, having good character and principles etc. While there are people I know who are so amazing at everything, who volunteer their time, participate in sports or fun outdoor activities all of the time, who have achieved so many things.

    I think I am being redundant. I truly appreciate your response! I will try harder, with renewed hope. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you know that you have made a difference.

    With great respect,
    Tinúviel

  • Tinúviel

    Thank you!! 🙂 haha, I think I definitely got caught up in all of my self doubt and low self esteem. I agree, even if it takes a hundred tries, I need to keep trying and not give up. I am so appreciative of the Nerdfitness community! I hope you know that you have given this nerd some much needed hope and encouragement (and hopefully other nerds who need it just as much or even more than I! :))

    To all of those reading this article, contributing in the comment sections, being a part of this community, I say from the bottom of my heart: THANK YOU! 🙂 you are all amazing! 🙂 Keep on keeping on! I believe in each and every single person reading this right now. I can’t wait to see what amazing changes and positive movements are in store for us in the future. 🙂

    much love,
    Tinúviel

  • Tinúviel

    I hope you read EngineeredGain’s response above. It is super helpful and I feel your pain. While I may not have as much life EXP as you, I truly do believe that anyone is capable of great things and that if you’re still breathing, there is still hope. Please don’t give up! You are not alone. I and the nerdfitness community cannot wait to see what positive changes you make and how you make an impact in the world! 🙂 I hope that one day we can see your “success” story too! (Success is in quotation marks because I think success is very open ended and depends on each person’s preference and ideal and is not at all limited to wealth or status etc. Unless that is what floats your boat)

    Don’t give up! We’re all cheering for you! We’re all going through our own boss battles! don’t let yours defeat you! 🙂
    Tinúviel

  • Tinúviel

    You give me so much hope! 🙂 I can’t wait to see what else you will conquer in the future! Remember: it’s not about being perfect, it’s about perserverance! 🙂

    Woot! You’re so awesome!
    -Tinúviel

  • Tinúviel

    Hi Jennifer,

    I’m not Kevin and I don’t know if my words will mean much to you. While I don’t know the answer to your question about how to distinguish between attitude or actual issues, I do know this: Your life can go in a million different ways. It’s like having to choose a train. You may be going along life in one train (in this case your first career of academia) and then later decided to “train hop” to one that leads to the business world. In my honest opinion, you shouldn’t regret not having stayed in one train all of your life. I think life is all about experiences and taking risks. While I don’t have all of the answers and I definitely cannot give career advice to you as I don’t have that much life EXP, hehe, I think that you should look to the future with excitement. With wonder, a curiousity of what else you can see, try, learn, master, etc. and you know what? You can always hop back on the academia train later down the road if you so wish, because who says you can’t? You do what you find fullfillment and joy in doing, and if right now, that means trying your hand at business then you do that!

    I don’t think any experience is capable of being a waste of time. If in the end, you choose to do something else, or go on another train, then you will still have that business and even academic perspective. you will be smarter, have an edge, wiser. You should not be afraid or sad. Instead try to be hopeful and brave.

    I wish you the best of luck,
    Tinúviel

  • Tinúviel

    Wow! great commitment! 🙂 I’ll try it! (that’s a really tough thing to get over especially when there are a multitude of ways one can lie to oneself)

    Keep it up! 😉
    Tinúviel

  • Tinúviel

    GREAT advice! I love your story because it has so much hope! I hope you (Naomi Black and Anita) find happiness and fulfillment in whatever you end up doing. I hope you life is full of joy and is constantly surprising you (in a good way! :P) and that you never regret your choices, because truly: your life will be amazing no matter what you end up doing. Because you’ll make it amazing! 🙂

    Best of luck,
    Tinúviel

  • EngineeredGains

    Hey man, don’t sweat it. I’m more than happy to try and help.

    The problem is i can’t answer your question “what exactly should you do to make your life great” This is totally up to you. From the sounds of it you have a good head on your shoulders; you understand that your life isn’t going according to your plans. You need to change something but don’t know what to do.

    First thing, stop and realize that it’s not that bad!!

    I don’t know your situation but from the sounds of it you have a good head on your shoulders. You’re in college so you must be fairly intelligent. You say you struggle with getting in shape but you’re making the effort and reading blogs trying to learn more about fitness. You have goals outside of that too like character and principles. All of that sounds like a pretty good foundation to me! You have the goals which is more than a lot of people can say!

    Now to keep to the theme of this post, work towards your goals… don’t make excuses to why you can’t. If/when you fail, because you will fail from time to time…. FORGIVE YOURSELF! Even those people who you say are “amazing at everything” they fail all the time and they have failed in their past. Don’t beat yourself up about failing.

    I don’t really want to plug my own blog but if you want to hear more about what worked for me check out http://www.engineeredgains.com/who-is-engineered-gains/

    Also zenhabits.net is a great resource… less fitness but it really helped straighten out my thoughts. It made me realize that i have control over my environment.

    Last bit of advice i have it don’t shoot for the moon and get mad when you can’t hit it. Take small, incremental steps towards your goals. I personally would stick to one thing you would like to change. and slowly change your habit. Zenhabits has many great posts about habit forming.

    Again best of luck. I hope the best for you

  • Naomi Black

    Thank you, same to you 🙂

  • Mauricio Gatgens

    Thanks for the reply, Tinúviel! Definitely encourage you to try it out for yourself….oh yeah, it’s tough but the rewards are sooo much worth it!

  • hey really motivational opinion for me .

  • tmkuster

    Well, I have found out that big business is a cruel mistress as on my birthday I was let go from my job. Upside is that I am freed from the shackles of a place I did not really enjoy going to anymore, but now I need to find a way to support my family and fast…. If ever there was a time to take on a challenge… THIS IS IT.

  • Awesome post, really enjoyed reading this. Great message and keep it up!

  • Edmond Dante

    Great article Taylor. You have point out the unpleasant truth so smoothly. All those damn “Excuses” are the main reason of not getting a healthy fit body that we all want. We want the result…but we don’t want to put our effort on it. I have started working out so many times before…but couldn’t stick to it 😀 I hope this article will help to stay focused.

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  • Wow! A very motivating piece right here. Well done Taylor. I, like virtually every human on the planet, gets caught up from time to time in the fast paced nature of our day to day lives and jobs, leading us to make idle excuses at our own expense. Nice read. http://www.fitnessinterest.com/

  • tmkuster

    Well, I just said f#@k it and joined the Academy! Definitely no turning back now!

  • srishti dewet

    Great inspirational story, things which happen in everyone’s life but not many can overcome and deal with it and most importantly to realize that we are not being true to ourselves and are just hiding behind excuses in one form or the other.

  • Jacob Vines

    This was a great reminder to me about how I constantly am fighting the image of a fat and overweight me. I constantly sabotage myself by eating crap food and not working out. I always think that I will never get to a healthy weight. I have tried a lot of things to help me fight off this temptation of eating badly, and the one thing that may help others is to continue to use transformation pictures to keep looking back at where I was, or I just think about how much I have already changed my lifestyle.