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How to Write Your Own Epic Destiny

Published on 10/21/2010 - 15 comments!

Luke Skywalker.  Frodo Baggins.  Harry Potter.  King Arthur.  Neo.

What do these fictional heroes all have in common?  They came from humble beginnings, lived a huge portion of their lives in relative obscurity, chanced upon some life-changing event or experience, and then went on to alter the course of history/save the world/galaxy/Middle Earth.  You know what else all of these heroes and their stories have in common?

They’re absolute classics and will be read/watched for generations to come.

I love a good underdog story; it’s always fun to root for the guy who doesn’t stand a chance, or the girl who started with nothing and eventually had it all.  Why?  Because it gives the rest of us hope (and I LOVE hope): if they can do it, and they came from nothing, then maybe we can too.

I was sitting around yesterday and thought to myself, “Practically every video game I’ve ever played has a hero-destiny storyline – Legend of Zelda, ALL of the Final Fantasies, Assassin’s Creed 2, Infamous, and pretty much any RPG.  All of the best fantasy books and movies have some sort of prophecy or destiny too.  Why can’t I have one too?”

So I made one up for myself.

After today, you will too.

Everything happens for a reason

Whether or not this is true is completely irrelevant.  If you believe everything happens for a reason, then it will be true.  No matter how dire your situation is now, or how poorly things are going in your life, start looking at everything as if it was meant to happen; something greater is around the corner.

Think back to the scene in The Fellowship of the Ring where Gandalf and Frodo are walking through the Mines of Moria.

Frodo: I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.
Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. There are other forces at work in this world Frodo, besides the will of evil. Bilbo was meant to find the Ring. In which case, you were also meant to have it. And that is an encouraging thought.

Sh** happens. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and just moping around all the time, look at those crappy days/weeks/months/years of your life as stepping stones for you to become what you’re meant to be.  Without those bad times, you would never get where you’re destined to go.

Let’s think about it for a second:

  • You’re grossly overweight - Maybe you were meant to get to that point so that you could lose a lot of weight and inspire others to do the same.  Your inspiring story could save somebody’s life.
  • You’re in a job you hate - You had to work that job in order to put you in the right place at the right time for your next job.  Something more fulfilling awaits.
  • Your girlfriend/boyfriend cheated on you – She/he clearly didn’t respect you or value your relationship, so it’s a good thing you found out now  You’re now free to find somebody who’s perfect for you.  Take this time to level up your life and you’ll meet the right person when the time is right.

Here’s my story: I moved to California after graduating college because I always wanted to live on the Pacific and surf.  I spent a year and a half doing a job that left me unfulfilled.  I eventually gave up “wasting my time” on the West Coast, moved to Atlanta with some college friends and found a new job.  After that I started a fitness blog, and here I am!

How I see it instead - I HAD to go to California (where I discovered my passion for fitness), and I had to be unhappy for exactly eighteen months, not one day shorter.   On the day I decided to make a change, a friend of mine emailed me from Atlanta.  On a whim I started looking for jobs there and my brother (who happened to be home at that exact moment) told me to check Craigslist.  I found an post for a company that “chartered music cruises.”  I applied for the job and wrote about the Shawshank Redemption, which happened to be the owner’s favorite movie as well, and ended up getting a job.  They decided to put me in charge of the company blog, I discovered a passion for writing I didn’t know existed, became inspired and started Nerd Fitness, and now I’m changing people’s lives, getting ready to travel the world, go on awesome adventures, and smiling every single day.

If any of those things didn’t happen, Nerd Fitness might not exist.

You have to go through the sh**ty stuff

Nobody likes to hear about guys and girls born into nobility with every advantage, are charming and good-looking, and then go on to be even more successful.  It’s way more fun to hear about the guys and girls who started with nothing, got pushed around, hated on, lived for years and years in horrible conditions but persevered, and then finally hit it big and kicked major ass.

You might be in the sh***y part of your story now.

I don’t care how old you are, how overweight you are, how sh**y your job is, how out of wack your finances are, the fun part of your story just hasn’t happened yet.  It is NEVER too late to get started, and no hole is too deep to climb out of.  Your calling is right around the corner, so keep your eyes and ears open.

You have a date with destiny, and she doesn’t like to be kept waiting.

Fortune favors the bold

Frodo was content living an easy life with Bilbo at Bag End.  Arthur was probably one heck of a squire.  Neo was a great computer programmer and would have made a very nice life for himself.  However, when destiny presented itself, they all responded with action: Frodo decided to take the ring to Mordor.  Arthur pulled the sword from the stone.  Neo took the red pill.

Change is scary and different. Sometimes though, you just need to say “this is what I’m meant to do” and then go do it.

Characters are sometimes born “The One” and don’t know it, while others had greatness thrust upon due to miraculous outside forces.  That matters not.  What matters is that when destiny showed up, they went for it.  No “I’m not good enough,” or “that’s not for me.”  Just “what do I need to do?”

After you create your destiny, it will be your responsibility to put one foot in front of the other and start taking steps towards your epic fate.  Find that moment, that catalyst, that spark that will get you started, and then go.  Waiting around and complaining about your bad job, unhealthy lifestyle, credit card debt, and/or boring life doesn’t make for a compelling story.

Stop waiting, stop complaining, and start planning - your destiny is there for the taking:

  • Change up your diet - stop eating junk and start eating real food.
  • Start exercising - do a body weight routine, head to the gym (don’t suck at working out), or sign up for a 5k
  • Leave your crappy job – jobs don’t have to be miserable you know, and nobody is forcing your stay there.  Any excuse is just another way to justify inaction.  Find something that you love, and then bust your ass to get paid for it.  It is possible to wake up with a smile on a Monday morning :)
  • Get out of debt – read my buddy Baker’s blog at ManVsDebt: get inspired, stop buying junk, sell your crap, and free yourself!

Do SOMETHING today - I’m a firm believer in the power of momentum.  Make Optimus Prime proud, and make one tiny change today. Who knows what it could snowball into?

If Frodo could put one foot in front of the other, walking ever closer to Mordor and certain death, you can take one step closer to your destiny (which is hopefully much less grim).

Eventually never happens.

Tomorrow never comes.

TODAY.

What is your destiny?

Here’s my (slightly embellished) origin story: I was just a humble boy growing up in a sleepy fishing village.  I went off to explore the South (college at Vanderbilt in Nashville, TN), moved west (San Diego), returned defeated but inspired (Atlanta, GA) discovered that my destiny lay with written words, lifted weights, and a rebellion of underdogs.  Since then I’ve embraced my prophecy and have begun building a rebel army.  Before my time is done on this planet, I expect to have started a world-wide rebellion, completed my Epic Quest of Awesome, and changed the lives of hundreds of thousands.  Not only that, but I want to be the first person ever to die from literally having too much fun, at the ripe old age of 127.

Moral of the story: a humble boy from a sleepy fishing village is going to alter the course of history.

Four years ago, that would have seemed like an absolutely ridiculous statement to me – I was just a kid, fresh out of college, selling construction equipment.  I didn’t know/care what a blog was.  I didn’t enjoy writing.  Now, this epic future I’ve envisioned for myself doesn’t seem so far off.  In fact, I’ll be surprised if I don’t accomplish everything I’ve set out to do.  After all, it’s my (home-made) destiny, right?

Your turn: What is your origin story?  Are you still in the sh**ty part yet, or have you discovered your true destiny?  What is it?

Leave your story in the comments, and get creative with it!

-Steve

PS – by the time you read this, I’ll be out to sea working on Jillian Michael’s Ultimate Wellness Cruise. I return on Monday, and then on Tuesday I head to Peru for 17 days of adventure!  Crazy times ahead, and I’m damn excited.

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  • http://www.strengthrunning.com Fitz

    Steve – I hope you’re enjoying the cruise! That sounds like a helluva experience and I know you’ll make the most out of it. I hope we can expect a report from your time on the boat.

    I know that in my running career, there have been a lot of lows with injuries, but those bad experiences have made the successful races that much more enjoyable. Cheers!

  • http://joelrunyon.com/two3 Joel Runyon | [BIT]

    Like like like this post.

    a humble boy from a sleepy fishing village is going to alter the course of history.

    ambitious & epic. Can’t wait to see it happen =)

  • http://pieandply.blogspot.com/ Erin

    I was ‘inspired’ to write a similar post a few months ago. At the time I wanted nothing more than not to have to write it. Now it is one of my favorites. Yep, everything happens for a reason. If you believe it, it’s true.

    http://pieandply.blogspot.com/2010/06/plyos-setbacks-and-significance.html

    Really looking forward to hearing your superhero spin on the Jillian Michaels experience! Oh, and also how well Peruvian guinea pigs fit into the paleo diet….

  • Samantha

    I LOVE THIS POST.

    I have an obsession with fate (not a scary obsession!). My own story is pretty short, I’m only 21, but very fate-y.

    I worked hard in high school (+), got into every college I applied to (+), then had no idea where to go from there (-). My parents had no idea, my family had no experience, almost 100% of my high school was going to the community college in town. I was set to go to a school in Minnesota – literally because I liked their brochure – and my mom and I went up right at the end of decision period to visit. Well, I hated it. With almost no time left to make a choice, and no research done on any other school, I closed my eyes (figuratively!) and picked… Northwestern. (+++++++++) An amazing school that I basically just stumbled into, backed by amazing parents who for some reason, went along with it. Fate? I think so. I didn’t sit back and say “oh, fate will get me into college, I’m fine.” I did my best, kicked ass in high school, and was rewarded. From there… the right choice just came.

    Then at Northwestern, I started on the pre-med track. Sucked (-). Kept going, and going. Still sucked (-). I gave pre-med everything I had; I had absolutely nothing left (+). In exercise metaphor, I was on the ground, puking, convulsing, and also unconscious. I truly put in all the effort I could, and I sucked. Fate finally said… come on. So after two full years, I changed my major to sociology (+). Now I’m doing awesome once again. Yay me.

    So I have a fate story that involved effort and payoff, and a fate story that had effort and a letdown. And a thousand other fate stories. And a fate plan for the future. Yeah.

    (Also, just so you know, the “View Comments” link in the email of this article is broken.)

  • Beany vonDoom

    When I was a kid, I thought I would become an artist, a writer, a wrestler or a teacher, so I went to university and took journalism. I hated it and quit. I sold a couple of freelance articles a few years later and then fear paralyzed me. I spent the next six years working a job I often hated, not doing anything but dreaming my dreams and wasting my life. Sometimes I was too hazy even to dream.

    I have a bowel disease and needed an operation. After my sick leave ended in July, I was determined to not go back to the job that I hated, so I applied for a bunch of jobs I was overqualified for. I didn’t even get a call. What the hell was I gonna do?! I realized I have a shitload of passion and the remnants of a company I used to run for a short period until it became too big and scary back in 2005. This summer, while on sick leave, I read The 4-Hour Work Week which led to me reading lots of other awesome books and also to me restarting my old company. Yesterday I made my first delivery and by this morning I was already sold out of my first order of energy bars.

    So as it turns out, I ended up teaching nutrition, being artistic with food and crafts, my persona practically screams wrestler, and I’m refocusing on writing! I can’t believe I’m anywhere close to where I thought I’d be. A few years ago I was so lost I thought my drive and true awesomeness would never again shine through.

    My company, Crowbar Real Foods is a small Halifax-based business supported by friends. We love each other, real food, the amazing world, and rock n’ roll, and are excited to share the fruits of our labour with you. We believe that each day is a party, but that partying is a serious business. Partying is doing whatever you love doing the most as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else. We hope you’re partying right now!

    If you wanna know more about me or my company, check it out! I feel like the luckiest girl in the world!

    http://www.facebook.com/crowbarrealfoods

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Ricardas-Peldzius/1370530109 Ričardas Peldžius

    Yeah, “you have to go through the sh**ty stuff”.. I suppose, we all “had” in some way, that’s why we all finally came to that blog.
    As for me, I had 6 or 7 operations on my kidneys as being kid, first was performed when I was only 1.5yrs-old. My parents broke up when I was 4 or 5yrs and personally I do not remember my father at all. Me and my mom lived in a rented flat for about 10 or 15yrs, but she fought for us, and actually I did fight as hell too. I finished school and Medical University excellent and chose a prestigious specialty of surgeon.. And shit happened once again – I did not like it. I discontinued my residency and find a job in some national institution. One year later I took a risk and applied to anesthesiologist residency, and got it! Now I am at the last year of my studies, I love my specialty, have a wife and an adorable 1.5yrs-old daughter :)
    And yes, I wasn’t very good in any kind of sport as a kid or teen, but things have changed since then.. I love basketball, running, swimming and weight-lifting. And, thanks to Steve for tremendous job and inspiration, being 29yr-old I already lost about 15kilos (from 95 to 80) in one year, dead-lifted my body-weight, ran 20km in less than 2hrs and participated in official running event at our Baltic sea-shore, where finished the longest distance or 6 nautical miles (11.12km) in less than 1 hour and ended-up in the first hundred of participants (even if I was outrun by some 60-70yr-old veterans for billion of light-years)

  • http://twitter.com/chasingthenow maria patrick

    Wonderful, wonderful post.

    My epic destiny in the making goes like this: I’m a girl from a very small town who met and married the love of her life just after college graduation. I grew up fat and spent a few years miserable before realizing I wasn’t even living my life–I was just dealing with whatever came my way. So I made a choice to start running and watching what I ate and dropped over 50 pounds. Looking back I realize that I had to go through all of that to realize my true passion is helping others when it comes to fitness and weight loss, which has inspired me to go back to school.

  • http://classee.tv Dan Bell

    I was about halfway through this when I thought, “Sh**, Steve’s a good writer.”

    This was just what I needed man. Sentiments like those expressed in this post are easy to make fun of, but they’re authentic, optimistic, and internally consistent. In other words, plotting a route through hyperspace is more dangerous than dusting crops, but the alternative is sitting around on Tatooine.

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  • http://www.kristensloan.com/ Kristen Sloan

    I love that you accept that your life has been a journey to get where you are now. You needed to experience some struggles to grow and realize your dreams. I think people sometimes feel life should be all roses all the time, but that isn’t true. And we need those rough patches to grow and develop our character. Thanks for the post.

  • http://www.kristensloan.com/ Kristen Sloan

    I love that you accept that your life has been a journey to get where you are now. You needed to experience some struggles to grow and realize your dreams. I think people sometimes feel life should be all roses all the time, but that isn’t true. And we need those rough patches to grow and develop our character. Thanks for the post.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/steveboone Steve Boone

    Thanks Steve,

    This is just what I needed to get my ass back in gear.

    Cheers,
    Steve

  • http://www.stevekamb.com Steve Kamb

    Dude!

    Glad to hear you’re still alive :) it’s nice to have you back!

    -S

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  • http://twitter.com/VictorMathieux Victor Jack Mathieux

    Recently discovered your blog and I’m quickly falling in love. You’re more “to the point” then what I’m used to. You are sincere. It’s very refreshing. 

    My epic destiny is to unlock human potential. I’m currently using the powers of design and entrepreneurship to do this by creating http://Evr.st aaannnd version 2 of http://aGoalPlanner.com (to make those New Years Resolutions actually happen).

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  • Clayton

    Steve, I have played Infamous and am currently playing Infamous 2. Sorry, but I had to post this. I absolutely LOVE Infamous

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  • http://www.facebook.com/cooper1386 Matt Cooper

    Wow great post. I needed this right now.

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