Hi, my name is Staci!
or Spezzy as I’m known around the Nerd Fitness community. I have had a pretty crazy 10-year journey:
- Working a sedentary desk job, I slowly packed on weight and ate like a typical unhealthy American. I also smoked a pack of cigarettes a day.
- I tried to get in shape doing what many people start with: I ran a lot and essentially starved myself. I dropped to an incredibly low and unhealthy weight and developed an eating disorder.
- I fell in love with barbell strength training and started lifting HEAVY weights.
- I’m now in the best shape of my life, healthier and happier than ever before, regularly competing in powerlifting meets and deadlifting 430+ pounds!
- Now in 2022, my journey continues.
For the women out there who are scared about “getting too bulky when lifting weights,” this article is for you.
If you are intrigued about powerlifting and don’t know where to begin, this article is for you.
If you’re curious what happens to a gal who packs on 40+ lbs of muscle and starts lifting heavy weights, this article is for you.
I’ve transformed inside and out over the past 10 years, and I hope this story to inspire you to go pick up a barbell the next time you’re in a gym. I actually joined Team Nerd Fitness in a full-time capacity in 2012!
In fact, I’m now a Senior Coach in our 1-on-1 online NF Coaching Program!
I sat down with Steve Kamb (creator of Nerd Fitness) for a multi-year retrospective below…and I’m hoping this can help you on your journey to becoming stronger.
Take it away Steve!
Staci’s Origin Story: 170 Pounds and Unhappy
Starting around age 16, she put on weight relatively steadily through high school, college, and beyond, when she reached her peak at 170 pounds in 2009 at the age of 25.
I asked her what a normal day was like before she tried to fix her health:
I’d get up at 7, go to work, have a Slim Fast shake because I never had time for breakfast. I wasn’t a big snacker but I ate a lot for my meals; I’d typically go out to eat for lunch every day and get a sub or something from D’Angelo’s or Subway, and it was never the 6″ one, it was the big one. And chips. Lots of chips. Or french fries. Getting home I’d either go out to eat with friends or plop in front of the TV playing video games for hours.
My favorite meal was tacos and nachos. I just asked my old roommate what I used to eat because I didn’t remember, and she said “You used to sit in front of the TV with a big plate of meat and cheese and go ‘Hm, I guess I should have some chips with this.'” On many occasions, we’d order pizza or takeout around 11PM too. On top of all of that, I used to smoke a pack of cigarettes a day!
And that’s when her doctor told her that she had high cholesterol and needed to lose some weight if she wanted to live a long healthy life.
Except that she wasn’t really sure how to lose weight, so she did what most people do when they want to lose weight:
Eat way less and run way more.
She joined a gym and started doing the elliptical as much as possible (“because that’s what you do when you want to get skinny, right?”).
STACI: At first I was only able to make it 10 minutes, but eventually got up to about an hour at a time on the elliptical.
I always thought that being super skinny would make me happy, like it was the one missing piece of my life. Everything would just magically be solved if I could just be skinny.
I bought countless exercise machines for my apartment, which all ended up sitting in the corner gathering dust. I bought DDR thinking that if I could exercise in a video game, that would do it. It didn’t.
I even tried “Sweatin to the Oldies” (which, for the record, everyone should do, because it at least gets you laughing and moving). Nothing stuck.
Until I was finally ready. I can’t say what it was, but I just got up one day and said: “OK, I’m going to do this now.” I didn’t set a date ahead of time, I just woke up knowing it was time.
Along with the elliptical workouts, I joined Weight Watchers. But as I started to feel the effects of the weight loss, I got obsessed. I’d weigh myself every day; I got a scale that measured every ounce so I’d know exactly what I lost. How my day went was always based on the number that was on the scale. If I had lost weight, it was a good day. If I had gained, I was worthless and didn’t deserve to have a good day, and had to do a second elliptical session to punish myself.
Following this unhealthy plan, Staci went from 170 pounds all the way down to 110 pounds over the course of a year. And then she started to open her eyes…
STACI: I did lose the weight that I needed to lose, but instead of “finding myself” and becoming comfortable in my own skin, I ended up being LESS comfortable. Everything I did was based on appearance. I couldn’t do certain things because either my body wasn’t “ready” or I was afraid I’d gain an OUNCE back.
I started looking in the mirror and seeing 30 things that needed to change; I developed severe body dysmorphic disorder. When the elliptical and calorie restriction stopped working, I became bulimic; I was just so desperate to be thin. I was tired all the time, I had no energy to do anything even when I was sleeping 10 hours a night. The bags under my eyes were insane. I simply wasn’t getting the nutrients I needed.
It was at this point that I was dating a bodybuilder who informed me I was doing it all wrong. This got the idea in my head that there was a better way, and I started to research nutrition and strength workouts. I got a set of 5lb dumbbells and a Jillian Michaels DVD and tried doing pushups.
I remember struggling to do chest presses with the 5lb dumbbells. And I wouldn’t use weights at the gym because I was so scared of looking like a fool in front of all of the guys on the weight floor. Seriously terrified.
As I found more info on nutrition, I started questioning Weight Watchers, and finally stopped going after I asked a question on how something was healthy and he pulled the line, “we’re not trying to get healthy here, we’re just trying to lose a little weight”. I started doing more research and began my transition to eating more Paleo in April or May 2010. I upped my calorie intake to around 1,500 a day and immediately started to feel better.
Staci starts weight training, goes full Paleo, finds Nerd Fitness
On June 1st, 2010, Staci’s work office opened up a gym with free weights, and she started training.
Because she was working out with coworkers and friends rather than random strangers, she felt comfortable giving strength training a try; she felt okay asking coworkers questions on different exercises and less self-conscious that she was doing everything wrong.
Over the next few months, from June until late August, she continued to educate herself on eating better and getting stronger:
STACI: I finished the Paleo transition in August or September, and stopped counting calories, which was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life; it’s a freedom I can’t even describe. I just ate when I was hungry. I gained weight, but I stayed the same size clothes, so what the scale said started to matter less and less. I went from 110 pounds at my lowest to around 130 pounds (both pictured above) and felt GREAT about it. My scale broke in May of that year, so I threw it away and only weigh myself probably once a month these days out of pure curiosity.
It was right around this time on her search for Paleo diet information that she stumbled across Nerd Fitness and saw an article about the Legend of Zelda (her favorite video game series too). She joined our community and continued to put her focus on strength training, and made sure she ate enough to fuel her workouts. She also sought out professional help for her eating disorder and body dysmorphic disorder.
After tons of encouragement from members of the Nerd Fitness community (including from Jon aka “KnightWatch,” now another NF coach) Staci began barbell training:
And just focused on getting really strong with those movements!
For Staci, that first barbell encounter was electric:
“When I say that the second I touched a barbell I fell in love, I’m not joking. People say to me, ‘Oh, it’s not healthy to lift that much….’ Lifting to me is like going and playing basketball to someone else. It’s a hobby and a passion. I’m not doing it because I have to, I’m doing it because I want to. I’m simply happier on days that I deadlift.”
And that’s how Staci jumped headfirst into the world of powerlifting.
Over the following six months, she strength trained like her life depended on it, keeping track of her gains and making sure she ate enough to continue getting stronger. She learned the movements, took tips from others, and constantly checked in with the Nerd Fitness Community.
Here are her weight training stats for those first six months:
She raised her deadlift from 135 pounds to 315 pounds, added 50 pounds to her overhead press and 50 pounds to her bench press.
You’re probably wondering what happens to a woman’s figure when she goes through this transformation and puts on even more weight. Allow me to show you!
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Staci Builds Muscle and Loses Fat
Believe it or not, Staci is 11 pounds heavier (142 pounds) in the picture on the right (May 2011) compared to the picture on the left (131 pounds, October 2010).
So what the hell happened?
How the heck does she look like she weighs less even though she weighs more?
She packed on muscle while getting rid of fat.
Another 2 years go by and Staci gained yet ANOTHER 8 pounds.
Clearly now she must have gotten too “bulky,” right?
You’re probably wondering, “Why is she getting leaner but somehow also gaining weight?”
The answer is simple:
Okay, maybe not magic. It’s time to bust the worst and most pervasive of the myths relating to women and lifting.
YOU DON’T GET BULKY LIFTING WEIGHTS UNLESS YOU’RE TRYING TO!
When you strength train with very heavy weights for low numbers of repetitions, you build incredibly DENSE, tight muscle. If you are eating at a caloric deficit, you are keeping the muscle you have and burning the fat on top of the muscle.
So how did Staci gain weight, then? BECAUSE SHE WAS TRYING TO.
On top of super heavy strength training, Staci was eating 3,000+ calories per day to put on the extra weight.
YES, when we lift weights, our body shape WILL change. When we work out and lift, we’ll develop a body that looks more like an athlete. No look is good or bad.
Staci just wanted to get strong and feel good about herself.
Although she was training in CrossFit for 2+ years (you can read about our thoughts on CrossFit here), after hitting a goal of competing at Regionals in 2012, she decided that she just LOVED lifting heavy, and switched to training on her own, focusing mainly on strength, with some fun conditioning like swimming mixed in here and there.
For the next four years, Staci continued to pick up very heavy weights, eat more calories than most men, and really focus on getting stronger.
In those four years, Staci put on about another 10 pounds.
Surely by NOW she would get too “bulky,” right?
Surely this is when the whole “women who lift weights get bulky” myth gets proven correct…right?
Staci’s Training in 2019 and Beyond!
Okay so here we are another 7 years later! What is Staci doing these days?
- A) Did she become a yoga fanatic?
- B) Did she keep powerlifting?
- C) Did she fall in love with gymnastics?
- D) All of the above?
Spoiler alert: all of the above. Duh.
Building a solid foundation of functional strength allowed Staci to work on other skills and pick them up quickly.
I asked Staci what her overall goals are these days:
My overall goal, sport-specific aside, is to be able to do whatever I want to do whenever I want to, without warning, without my body holding me back. And by that I mean if a friend calls me tomorrow and says, “I found a secret treehouse in the middle of the woods, but we need to hike a gigantic mountain and bike 50 miles to get there,” I want to be able to say “I’m in” without hesitation. So I always want to push my body’s limits. Plus, it’s fun!
I really enjoy competing sometimes, but my main goal isn’t to be the best at one sport – I have too many goals I’m working towards!
And rather than tell you about Staci, I’d rather share some recent training videos from her exploding Instagram page…
Staci can do all of the above because she built a foundation of functional strength.
She got really strong at big movements like the squat and deadlift, and bodyweight movements like push-ups and pull-ups. She cut her body fat percentage so she wasn’t carrying around excess weight. She taught her body that being strong feels good, and learned that being strong makes her happy.
She also did a few other key things for each of these activities:
- She slowwwwwly progressed with each exercise, and had a strong foundation to start with!
- She followed very specific progressions when it comes to gymnastic rings.
- She followed a progression when it comes to handstands.
- She had a yoga routine to follow (we have a whole course starring Staci with fun yoga routines).
She also had help! Although she learned a lot on her own, Staci over the past 7 years has worked with different coaches and trainers to learn specific skills or improve her ability in certain movements or lifts, as well as help her with proper programming and periodization.
After all, a coach can be a game changer and having somebody who can check your form and offer guidance is like turning on cheat codes for strength gains.
So that’s where she’s at now, but there’s a big question I haven’t answered yet: Just WHAT was she eating to fuel these workouts? After all, we know from Nerd Fitness that nutrition is 90% of the battle when it comes to strength gain and/or weight loss!
So here is her exact nutritional strategy!
Staci’s Exact Nutritional Strategy
Oh what’s that? You want to know EXACTLY how Staci eats too? Of course you do, you’re reading Nerd Fitness and you want all the nerdy specifics you can get your hands on.
Let’s start by taking a look at what Staci eat through the first few years of her transformation.
Here’s an exact week for her back in mid-2012:
- Every Sunday (or whatever works, but usually it’s Sunday) I cook a few pounds of chicken. I then portion it out and keep them in Ziploc bags. If I don’t have time for that, you can get all-natural precooked sausage (both chicken and pork) that works just as well as a “bring to work” meat.
- 5AM pre-workout: (first thing in the morning): protein shake. (nothing special). It’s not Paleo, and I love every sip of it. Then I go and work out. If I go to the gym with a full stomach, I will not leave with a full stomach. 🙂
- 7:30AM on my way to work: apple or pear.
- 9:30AM sweet potato with cinnamon. I keep them at work, and cut them up, throw it in the microwave for 5 minutes with cinnamon. Comes out amazing.
- Another protein shake somewhere in here between breakfast and lunch.
- 12PM lunch: two of the bags of chicken I precooked and a bag of the Steamfresh vegetables. The entire bag is about 3.5 servings of vegetables. My favorite is broccoli, cauliflower, and carrots.
- Lunch 2: spinach salad with shrimp, red peppers, green peppers, red onion, lemon juice.
- 2-3 snacks in the afternoon. Could be one of these: Apple with almond butter, bell pepper (I eat them like apples… I’m weird), carrots (they even make carrots cut like chips), bags of chicken (yes, those bags of chicken I consider a snack as well, not just a meal), a zucchini (yes, plain, raw, uncooked), celery with almond butter and raisins, strawberries, frozen mixed berries.
- 7-8PM dinners: meat (steak, sausage, shrimp, salmon, or chicken) with some of the following: red peppers, green peppers, red onions, broccoli, carrots, cauliflower (Steamfresh bags!), and/or summer squash and zucchini.
- Every once in a while I make something awesome, like this (but really, that takes a lot of time). When I DO make something like that, I make it in bulk and will eat it for the week.
Seems like an absurd amount of food, right?
That’s because it IS an absurd amount of food. This is what Staci does day in and day out in order to gain weight so that she can lift heavier weights.
And I think you’ll agree with me that despite all of this extra work to pack on a lot of weight, the last word you would use to describe Staci’s physique these days is “bulky.”
However, Staci discovered in 2013 that she had Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, an autoimmune disease that messes with your thyroid.
This diagnosis explained a lot of the struggles she had dealing with random weight gain and anxiety, but it was something she had to address. Although it put a strain on her training, she addressed the disease with her doctor – who initially tried to treat it solely through medication – by actively tracking her nutrition and following a VERY specific type of nutritional strategy (while being monitored by her doctor).
This lead to Staci following a strict auto-immune Paleo protocol for food: meats, veggies, and berries. The autoimmune part of Paleo cuts out nuts and seeds, nightshades (tomatoes, onions, peppers), and eggs. After experimenting with this diet, Staci slowly started re-introducing foods and developed a diet that works best for her.
Now Staci eats meats, vegetables, dairy (but only whole and organic grass fed), fruits, eggs, and rice. She doesn’t eat gluten or soy anymore, no matter what. This may sound restrictive, but she really enjoys it and feels better than she’s felt in her entire life.
She also became a master batch-meal-cooker, preparing her meals for the week step-by-step.
I asked her a few other questions about her diet, specifically: “Do you miss the junk food you used to eat?”
STACI: The thing is…I don’t. Once you’re off of all of the sugar and processed foods, you don’t even think about it. I got ice cream the other day, which has always been my huge weakness, and it was so sweet that I actually had to mix it with berries and even ended up throwing some of it away.
It always bothers me when people will be like “come on, why don’t you live a little!” when I’m out to eat. I’m eating this way out of choice, because I want to. I LOVE steak, I LOVE shrimp, I LOVE broccoli – why would I eat pasta or pizza when I can have any of those? Processed food actually tastes fake to me now, and I don’t feel good afterwards. I really, truly, actually do not want it.
Now, many people would say “Isn’t it super expensive to eat only healthy food all the time? Isn’t it much easier to opt for the cheap, quick, and easy fast food?”
STACI: Sure, it can be, but I made it a priority in my budget. Batch cooking and meal prep saves a lot of money and actually makes it cheaper to eat this way. But also, to me, feeling amazing and being healthy is more important than having 1,000 channels, getting the newest gadgets, or living in the most luxurious apartment. Plus, I save A LOT of money by not going out drinking.
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How Else Staci Changed
Sure, Staci changed physically, and her attitude changed, but how she thought about the gym changed too.
Instead of looking at the gym as a negative thing, and how horrible it’s going to be using the boring elliptical, she changed her attitude. Now she thinks, “Hey! I get to do squats today! I wonder if I’ll hit a personal best?”
STACI: “There have been nights where I’ve actually had trouble sleeping because I’m so excited about deadlifts the next day.”
I know it sounds silly, but that little mental change really does make a big difference, especially if you keep doing it.
I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention something else Staci did that was really powerful: she evaluated the relationships in her life and leveled those up too.
STACI: Most people have been super supportive, but others definitely think that I’ve gone too extreme. I learned to drown out the voices pretty early, and just do what I felt was the best for me. With diet, I remember the first few people I told about Paleo definitely were not supportive and were more worried than anything. I started telling people that certain foods just “didn’t sit well with my stomach” or that I was allergic (turns out, it was sort of true). It worked great.
Staci has also had to deal with really negative people that couldn’t deal with her healthy evolution and she had to sacrifice them (not literally!).
I’ve known Staci through nearly this entire journey because she became an active member of our community at the very beginning. Her transformation over these past 7 years has been awe-inspiring. Watching her go from shy message board poster to veteran team member and now Senior Coach at Nerd Fitness has put the biggest smile on my face.
I’m proud to call her a friend and honored to have her as a teammate.
Why Staci was successful for 10+ years and Counting
When most of us reach adulthood, we usually get bigger, slower, unhealthier.
Staci bucked the trend, and instead became healthier, stronger, happier, dealt with a lot of baggage (smoking addiction, eating disorders, Hashimoto’s disease), and came out the other side a powerlifting superhero badass woman. In looking back over her journey and interacting with her practically every day for these 8 years, I can identify a few things she did that specifically aided her on her quest:
#1 SHE EDUCATED HERSELF
When Staci started her weight loss journey, she didn’t really know any better and didn’t know where to turn, so she did what she thought was right: she starved herself and spent hours and hours on treadmills and elliptical machines.
After this left her miserable and depressed, she started doing her research and finally learned how to eat properly.
She used 20 seconds of courage to start training in a commercial gym, quickly realizing that she had every right to train with the guys in the free weight section.
#2 SHE FOCUSED ON STRENGTH, NOT HER WEIGHT
We know that “appearance is a consequence of fitness.” Rather than worry about her weight and how it fluctuated on a daily basis, Staci threw away her scale and only focused on getting stronger. She tailored her meal plan (which is quite extensive) around getting stronger.
She understood that it is ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE FOR WOMEN TO GET TOO BULKY FROM LIFTING WEIGHTS (and “bulky” is quite subjective anyway, right?). So she simply tracked her workouts and tried to get stronger each week, knowing that her appearance would change as a result of this strength. I’d say it worked!
#3 SHE ATE FOR HER GOALS
What you eat will be 90% of your success or failure when it comes to fitness and health.
Staci tried the “eat way less food” method of weight loss, and it turned her into a sickly person with an eating disorder who struggled with 5-pound dumbbells. She got professional help to overcome her disorder, educated herself on nutrition, focused on consuming the right foods for her body, and now no longer worries about how many calories she eats. She has boundless energy, way more confidence, and is happier as a result.
When she was diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder called Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, she worked with her doctor to treat the problem through a strict nutritional strategy rather than just resorting to medication and pills. It required a fairly large pivot, but Staci will tell you that feeling strong and healthy is worth it.
#4 SHE TRACKED HER WORKOUTS
Staci is a nerd like you and me, which means she loves numbers and stats. You can go back through her old posts on our message boards and see exactly how much she was lifting and how she was training over the years. She tracks every one of her workouts she’s ever done, and can always refer back to them!
On weeks where she didn’t see as much success in the gym, she examined factors like diet, stress, and sleep, and made adjustments where needed to break through any plateaus.
On weeks when she didn’t feel as healthy, she could figure out what needed fixing and how to fix it. As long as the amount of weight at the end of the bar kept going up, she knew she was progressing in the right direction. In other words, “in order to crack the problem, you gotta track the problem!”
#5 SHE HAD A COMMUNITY OF SUPPORT
Staci jumped headfirst into the Nerd Fitness community, asking questions about strength training, participating in our monthly challenges, and asking for support in her quest to live a healthier life. She has since joined our team, became a lead trainer for our 1-on-1 coaching program, is a huge presence in the online community for Nerd Fitness Prime, and has made friends in gyms across the country. And thanks to this success story, she’s inspired hundreds of thousands of women to start strength training!
#6 SHE NEVER STOPPED LEARNING AND SLAYING NEW DRAGONS
Look at Staci’s training regimen in 2019: gymnastic rings, handstands, yoga, swimming, powerlifting, bodyweight training, and Olympic lifting. In 8 years, I have seen Staci evolve and adapt her workout program dozens of times. While many people miserably run on a treadmill and go on a diet until they reach their goal weight (only to put it all back on) …Staci was different.
She understood the concept that “you never get to be done, so you might as well enjoy the journey.” Staci doesn’t HAVE to go to the gym, she GETS to go to the gym. It makes her feel alive. Learning new skills and having new goals consistently keeps her on target and working harder to live better.
You never get to be done – so don’t go on diets or follow a workout program you hate. Pick activities you love and get addicted to progress. Staci got hooked on picking up heavier and heavier weights, and now she’s hooked on seeing what her body is capable of!
In other words, what do you do after you slay a dragon? Go find a bigger one!
How to be Like Staci
“Staci is so awesome. I want to be like her when I grow up, even though I’m older than her” is something you might be saying right now.
You’re inspired and fired up and know that women can lift heavy and still look great and you want to get started. But you have no idea what you’re doing or where to begin, which is why I’m here.
HOW TO BE LIKE STACI:
STEP 1: Get started with bodyweight training by following our Beginner Bodyweight Workout Routine, until you can complete the routine completely.
STEP 2: Read our entire Strength 101 sequence, where we cover how to strength train with weights. Practice at home with a broomstick or PVC pipe to build confidence with the big movements and then…
STEP 3: Read our complete guide on how to train in a gym! Head to a gym and complete your first strength training routine!
STEP 4: Repeat and try and learn and do and mess up and pick up slightly heavier things and repeat and try and fail and succeed and learn a lot about yourself in the process. It’s the journey, not the destination; enjoy it!
Know that you’re not alone on this journey. We have a community of hundreds of thousands of people all over the world that want to help you! But we can only help you once you decide to get started.
What’s that you say? “Steve this all sounds well and good, but please I just want somebody to tell me EXACTLY what to do every day so that I have the confidence and peace of mind that I’m doing things correctly!”
Don’t worry, I got you covered there too!
IF YOU WANT TO BE TOLD EXACTLY WHAT TO DO:
- Consider our 1-on-1 coaching program where we’ll build a powerlifting and nutrition program for you based on your situation and current level of experience, with video form checks and expert guidance. It’s how Leslie, a single mom, lost 100+ pounds!
- On a bit tighter of a budget? No problem! Check out our self-paced online community, Nerd Fitness Prime, which eases you into strength training with both bodyweight and gym routines.
I don’t care how you get started, just that you start!
You might have to deal with jerks in a gym who think they know better, but I promise you they don’t. You have just as much a right to lift in the gym as they do, and you have as much right to use the free weights section as they do.
Go get strong, and be like Staci!